For the conversations you’ve been putting off.
An AI mediator for couples. Name the hard thing, say it so it can be heard, and finally have the conversation.
Built on fifty years of couples research, and on The Art of WinWin Conversations by Kamal Sarma.
Nonviolent CommunicationThe Gottman MethodWinWin Communication
Waiting is the expensive part.
Three numbers from fifty years of research on couples, and what they cost.
0 years
how long the average couple stays unhappy before talking to anyone about it
0%
of couple conflict is perpetual: it never gets solved, only navigated, together or apart
$0
for one session of couples therapy, on a Tuesday. The fight was Sunday, 11pm, in the kitchen
Let’s Untangle is for the in-between: the conversation you keep meaning to have, and keep not having.
The Untangle Method
We rebuild the sentence that starts the fight.
Five steps: observation, feeling, need, appreciation, request. Watch what happens to the reply.
Sam
Sunday, 9:41 pm
You never listen to me.
How the fight starts
Same person. Same night. Same feeling. Different sentence.
Three steps to being heard.
Don’t take our word for any of them. Watch.
01
Untangle alone first.
Fifteen minutes with Tara, and the thing you couldn’t say has words. This is a real one, replaying:
02
Then untangle with them.
They tap a link, nothing to download. One phone between you or a phone each, and Tara sits in the middle keeping the turns fair, on no one’s side.
Ash
You booked our whole weekend without asking me. Again.
Jo
Because if I don’t plan it, we drift and the weekend just disappears.
You’re not fighting about the calendar. Ash wants to be asked; Jo doesn’t want the time to slip away. Jo, tell Ash what you just heard them say, in your own words.
03
Then repair the pattern.
Six evenings for the hard season, and the exercises therapists actually assign, guided card by card, so the same fight stops coming back in new clothes.
The Dream Beneath · from Gottman’s gridlock work
“What are you afraid would happen if you let this go?”
Tonight’s rule: nobody is allowed to solve anything. You’re interviewing, not persuading.
The Repair
Evening 3 of 6: The Dance
Then the decks and rituals keep it warm.
The promise
Praise in public.
Feedback in private.
What the two of you say here is the most personal kind of feedback there is. It is treated that way.
Never shared
No feed, no audience. Nothing said in a conversation is ever posted, shown, or sold to anyone outside it.
Yours alone
Live conversations run on your phones, not in our database, and are saved only when you choose to keep them.
Guarded by design
Encrypted in transit, protected by safety systems built so a private word stays private. Even a side chat is never shown to the other person.
Meet Tara.
Not a therapist. Not a chatbot. The third chair at the table. She has read fifty years of research on how people actually hear each other, and she is on neither person’s side.
How to courageously navigate your most challenging, complex and critical conversations through connection
The Art of
WINWIN
CONVERSATIONS
By Kamal Sarma
Raised on the book
Tara runs on The Art of WinWin Conversations: the framework Kamal Sarma built over a decade of working with couples, hospitals, and boardrooms. A monk for six years, then McKinsey, then founder of Rezilium, he began the work in a hospital room, when one sentence changed how he understood listening:
“My job is not to listen. My job is to make her feel heard.”
She is the friend who tells you both the truth.
It’s never about the dishwasher.
The recurring fight is almost never about what it’s about. Underneath the small thing is a real need: to be seen, to come first, to get someone’s best hours instead of their leftovers. That need is what we help you say.
the dishwasher, againphones at dinnerthe tone, not the wordswhat to eat, every single nightwho noticed the school formyour mother's commentsthe thermostatspending on little thingsworking late, againwho initiatesthe dishwasher, againphones at dinnerthe tone, not the wordswhat to eat, every single nightwho noticed the school formyour mother's commentsthe thermostatspending on little thingsworking late, againwho initiates
the sighweekends that fill themselveswhat 'I'm fine' actually meanskeeping scorethe fight about how we fightwhose tiredness counts morethe best hours going to workone-word answersthe thing from 2019who plans everythingthe sighweekends that fill themselveswhat 'I'm fine' actually meanskeeping scorethe fight about how we fightwhose tiredness counts morethe best hours going to workone-word answersthe thing from 2019who plans everything
The small things add up. The unnoticed flowers, the sigh over the calendar, the thermostat war: every couple ends up with a cycle.
The couples who last aren’t the ones who escape the cycle. They’re the ones who learn its three beats.
Rupture. Repair. Renew.
They don’t fight less. They repair faster, and they tend the good times on purpose. We built a room for each beat.
Rupture
The Untangle
The fight just happened, or it’s about to. Find what it’s actually about, say it so it can be heard. Free, twenty minutes.
Repair
The Repair
For the hard season. Six evenings that teach what couples therapy teaches, at your own kitchen table. Evening One is free.
Renew
The Practice
For when nothing is wrong. Six card decks, ten therapist-grade exercises, a weekly ritual. The good weeks compound. Starts free.
With your therapist, or instead of one. Both are honest.
Couples therapy works and costs $150 to $318 a session. Most couples need the skills more than the diagnosis. We built for both realities.
If you’re seeing someone
This is the between-sessions.
Homework, by name
The exercises therapists already assign, guided. Lineage on every one.
Walk in caught-up
The Session Brief: your week’s work on one page. Made on your device, shared only by your hand.
Tara stays in her lane
She knows you’re in therapy and steers the big things back to your therapist’s room.
Therapists: this page is yours.
If therapy isn’t happening right now
This is the curriculum.
The skills, in order
Six evenings of The Repair, then the weekly ritual and exercises that keep it.
A mediator for the hard ones
Tara between you, on one phone or two, keeping the turns fair.
A year for less than one session
Everything we make, $20 a month. A year of it costs less than one $318 session.
And when it’s bigger than skills, we say so and point you to a human. That’s in writing.
When it’s more than one conversation
The Repair: six evenings with Tara.
The core of what couples therapy teaches, at your own kitchen table. Included in the membership, and Evening One is free forever.
01
The Ceasefire
From fights that explode and go nowhere, to fights that can stop mid-air.
02
The Fight Beneath the Fight
From the same fight in different clothes, to the need underneath, named.
03
The Dance
From you're the problem, no you are, to the pattern is the problem.
04
Being Heard
From talking past each other, to one conversation where both of you land.
05
The 69%
From trying to win arguments that can't be won, to dialogue with a difference that isn't going anywhere.
06
The Repair Kit
From goodwill that evaporates by Tuesday, to your own kit: phrases, rituals, and one agreement.
What could cost you $15,000 is $20 a month
The average US divorce runs about $15,000. A year of weekly therapy runs $8,000 and up. Your relationship shouldn’t have to wait for either.
The Untangle membership
$20
/month
A year of everything costs less than one therapy session.
Unlimited untangles
Tara mediating, one phone or two
The Repair
Six evenings of what couples therapy teaches
Six Renew decks
Card games for the good nights
Ten guided exercises
Gottman, EFT, PREP, Satir, WinWin
The Weekly
The 20-minute meeting therapists assign first
The Session Brief
Your week on one page, for your therapist
The mid-fight Toolbox
Free for everyone, forever
Everything we ship next
New decks and exercises included
Questions people ask.
Is this couples therapy?+
No. It's a tool for the everyday conversations that never reach a therapist's office. If you're in crisis or in danger, we point you to real help immediately.
Does my partner need to download anything?+
No. You send a link. They tap it and the whole conversation happens in their browser.
Does the AI take sides?+
Never. Tara is built to hold both people's feelings as equally real. That's the entire point.
Is what I write private?+
Yes. Your words are yours. Nothing is shared with your partner until you choose to share it, and nothing is used to train AI models. Export everything or delete all of it, any time.
